Posted by Maciamo, Then in my case, my wife's family is only 2 people, and their opnion was not decisive in getting married, but why wife still insisted on having a lavish wedding party.
When you and your wife were planning for the wedding, did your preference get taken as an option? I feel bad for you that you had to have the wedding left you negative memory. I would assume you made a lot of compromise for your wife, though I think should you have been more sturbborn and clear about what you liked to your wife, your wedding must have been closer to your style.
Posted by Maciamo, What I don't understand is why she or her married friends continue to talk about marriage (other people's marriage, or comapring each other's situtation, which can only lead to jealousy on one part or the other) years after getting married ?
Women often talk about their friends' marriages just to acknowledge or share their happiness, having said that I understand that some women like to compare and feel good about how her wedding was more expensive and more people came, which I think is disgraceful.

I wouldn't know what kind of wedding I would have had if I got married in Japan, but my husband and I invited only his family including his old dog in the woods, a retired judge from the village read parts from "prophet", told us to exchange rings which we didn't have(neither of us likes jewelry), so we exchanged little sticks that were taken from the trees. Later on, we went to his parents' house and had hotdogs & beer. We didn't care about the honeymoon either. Both of my husband and I have to feel like ourselves than to have a huge show to be happy, so it worked out beautifully.