Japanese morals

[Ewok85]

Even those who don't cheat probably use pornography (I'm not saying that viewing pornography is cheating, but it does show a desire to see someone other than your spouse in a sexual way, meaning we're geared toward wanting more than just one sexual partner.)

And if you watch it together your both naughty people who want to cheat?

[caster51]

westerner morality comes from their own inner sense of right and wrong, and Japanese morality is more like about a sense of shame they get from disrupting things.

moreover, they consider the other ppl.
it means it is always not only "me" like me me me
If the Japanese picked up a purse,they would think the person who droped it is embarrassed with the first idea.
there is few good or bad decision from own inner sense.

[Onigiri Chan]

moreover, they consider the other ppl.
it means it is always not only "me" like me me me
If the Japanese picked up a purse,they would think the person who droped it is embarrassed with the first idea.
there is few good or bad decision from own inner sense.

As a westerner I see things differently. If a person does what he or she feels - regardless of the potential outcome - it seems to me more self-indulgant than stearing clear of any negative actions before the results.
As before mentioned the saying "what you don't see doesn't hurt you" is applied here.
For me, upholding my moral beliefs are somewhat a matter of preserving my own sense of integrity as well as keeping the people around me from hurting any more than they have to at my expense.
None of this is to say that Americans aren't directed by the moral codes of their society.
Using the purse example; if someone was to find a purse on the ground they'd undoubtedly consider keeping the money - but because of the accepted moral beliefs within our society, keeping someone's lost money is known to be wrong. An average person would likely make an effort to return the purse on account of social moral code, even if he or she had no strong inclination towards it.
Although after thinking about it a little bit, this is neither here nor there - off subject. : (

[gaijinalways]

Luckily, in Japan, you often can get things back when they are lost, so this shame culture is good for something. Then again, when people stay at home for years because they are 'ill', I worry a bit when they decide to 'emerge'!

[AmericanBF]

Luckily, in Japan, you often can get things back when they are lost, so this shame culture is good for something. Then again, when people stay at home for years because they are 'ill', I worry a bit when they decide to 'emerge'!

Sorry, newbie here...but can you explain this or provide a link?

Also, with consideration to the OP, I think it would be very useful and interesting to say the least to hear from someone from Japan on this topic who can uphold the idea of Japanese morals in the OP. So far, most if not all the posts have been from us westerners with our observations based on our experiences. I would love to hear from someone who sees no problem with the the notion that the winner is always right and cheating is ok as long as no one finds out.

I love this stuff!