Originally Posted by
genmai
Sweet, White Girl, love the user name. Keep rockin' it.
You're exactly right, many foreigners here in Japan justify most of this sometimes racist and bizarre Japanese behavior. It is sucking up to the nth degree. They always try to give excuses as to why Japanese act a certain way. ...Oh, mabye they didn't hear you, Oh, maybe they don't speak English, Oh, maybe they were just being polite, Oh, maybe it's how you said it, Oh, maybe they don't understand 'gaijin', Oh, maybe they are shy or embarrassed or...whatever. Who cares, it's just tiring.
Some 'gaijin' want to fit in so badly, they turn into conformist robots.
Little do they know that they will never be Japanese nor never 'fit' in.
Of course there are cool, friendly Japanese, which are a joy to talk to.
I have even used some advise from this forumn, which has worked.
Finding these cool Japanese is rare, yet makes living here a pleasure at times.